Ethnic Relations

In the second episode of the Real Housewives of DC, we begin to see how racial the nations capital is. We had the opportunity to see Stacie, who is black and seemingly successful, was hosting a party at her aunts house. She invited the other housewives who are all white. They all seemed to gel nicely except for the snobby Brit. I thought of all person that she would have shown some class, but clearly, she seemed to have been raised by animals. She did not have the common courtesy to use pokerface, instead she just puts it all out there and leaves a bad impression. The other housewives gathered and spoke about it. They mentioned that it is probably because the Brit is not familiar with being in an environment where it is majority black. I have not tolerance for such stupidity. Its like saying, I cant act properly around Americans because I am not used to being around majority Americans. Its pathetic, you simply need to show respect no matter what situation you are in. There are basic things you should know to do and not to do around people, especially those you think you are not familiar with. Things like ask questions rather than assuming. My question is, when should the tolerance for poor racial relations/behavior be condoned or when should we be sympathetic? In 2010 I have no sympathy for it whatsoever.