What can be learnt from the New Jersey Housewives?

We have learnt so far this season from the NJ Housewives that family is important. We learn that if someone shares a different view point from our family we should automatically black list them and go as far as to attack them. There is no room for acceptance of differences in no shape or form. If you had problems in your past, you cannot be a better person and you will always where, like in the Scarlet Letter, an A on your chest. We learnt to fight it out and not to talk it out. We learnt that friends are very temporary and the very minute you slip-up, your friends are gone. Friends do not keep secrets and your closest friend is you biggest enemy. A lot of other lessons to be learnt in this show. Can you tell me some other lessons you learnt? And what can we talk away from this show as positive?

Italian Clan

On the final episode of the Real Housewives of New Jersey, aired Aug 23 2010, we see where Caroline and Danielle had a showdown. Danielle was alerted by text message to meet Caroline at a restaurant. As per usual Danielle had to have her bodyguard as she fears her life. She has been in situations before with the other housewives as they try to break her down. Caroline and Danielle sat to discuss the issues they were having. Caroline allowed Danielle to speak and then Caroline began. Caroline told Danielle that she was garbage, she then continued to brag about how clannish her family was. Caroline stated stat when she stands she does not stand alone. She stands with Jacqueline, Teresa and the kids. Danielle said, that she can only stand with her two daughters. This really showed who was stronger. Danielle was stronger, because with all the clansmen that Caroline have, why are they still discussing the incident between Ashley and Danielle? Danielle was handed the golden platter because of how poorly Ashley acted that night. My question is, do we really stand stronger in numbers?

Immigration and Generation - New Jersey Housewives take trip to Italy

In the Real Housewives of New Jersey, we see where all the housewives with the exception of Danielle, all went to Italy for a vacation. The Manzo's took their parents, so too did Jacqueline. Teresa speaks Italian along with her husband who was born in Italy but moved to the US at age 1. Teresa and her husband are the closest to their roots in Italy compared to the other housewives. It was interesting to see how happy she was to take he friends there. Her family seemed loving also was he husband's family. They all greeted each other with kisses to the point where for me it was overwhelming. I liked it though. In one scene, Caroline talked about how weird it was for her to see Teresa and her husband being so "Italian" for lack of a better word. She continued to make the point that her grandparents left Italy to become Americans. It gave the impression that in the US she is all Italian American, and in Italy, she is all American. One may begin to wonder if she was could not appreciate her roots. My question is, as the US continue to be the number one destination of new immigrants, how will the off spring of those immigrants, whether 1st or 3rd generation refer to themselves as - Americans or American? Give me your thoughts!!